Love believes all things 1 Cornithians 13:7
That is the kind of love we want for our marriage or for our friendship to last for a life time. No love can grow without trust. We are called to love by our God. Trust is the base of love. We are talking about confidence, trusting and believing in people. That is what love is actually. I trust my fellows and that I have confidence in them. Love and trust are intertwined. They go hand in hand.
There are three kinds of people in the world. The first is the gullible people. People who are naive and believe everything and anything. And that is the fear of most of us to be gullible. The second is the cynical people who do not believe anything. They are suspicious and skeptical of everything. The third is the healthy people that can love and give people the benefit of the doubt.
What if we are not healthy? Which option is much safer and much wiser for us? To be more believing and trusting people or be more skeptical. I think the natural response is to be skeptical. A lot of pyschological studies have been done and the finding was that one of the saddest people in the world are skeptical people.
And the characteristic of the happiest people in the world are people who are more trusting. The worst thing that could happen when we are trusting too much is that we will be burned. People will abuse our trust. But which is better? That our trust is abused once or twice or ten times and we live happy for the rest of our lives or live skeptical having no relationship with anyone and afraid of anyone all our lives because we are afraid to be burned once or twice or even ten times. And to live sad and lonely all our lives because we are skeptical of people.
They actually did some IQ test because they thought that the gullible people had less IQ. But the test showed otherwise. Trusting people have better IQ. Trusting people know what they are doing. It is a choice. When we stop trusting people, then we stop relating to people and stop loving people. If we don’t relate well then we breaking the commandment of love neighbor. We can never say we love people without trusting them.
Trust means giving people a second chance when they mess up. For example, we don’t leave a small group and say I will never come to this small group again. Or say I am never going to speak to this person again saying he/she embarrassed me and abused my trust. Love that trusts gives a second chance. How many chances have we gotten from our good Savior? We can’t take this decision without giving a second chance. For example, we mess up in a game and a good coach will let us play again. But a bad coach will put us on the side and the self-esteem is down and we end up hating to play and hate the game all together. Or when a youngster gets into an accident or someone who just started to drive gets into an accident, the worst thing is to tell this person to never drive again. But the best thing is right after the accident, to let them use the car and start driving. Give them a second chance saying, I trust you. Very important to give this grace to people. How many times we did something stupid by mistake and people punished us for the rest of our lives because that is a stupid mistake? And how many times when we were given a second chance that we were so appreciative of that and we did our best because we are given a second chance.
Sometimes it is very hard to trust certain people. How do we trust? How can love believes all things? When we are trusting people because of God and His commandments and because of the love and relationship, we are not really trusting them but we are trusting God. We are taking a huge risk but it is a step of faith. We are trusting God. We are not trusting the people at hand. Sometimes, we lose this trust even with God. When God does something we don’t understand, we don’t give Him a second chance either. We say O you messed up this, I am not talking to you again. We say to Him you don’t love me and this and that. When we fall into this trap, we need to recite the following verse.
But God says “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, Nor are your ways My ways,” says the Lord. “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So are My ways higher than your ways, And My thoughts than your thoughts. Isaiah 55: 8-9
We don’t understand the wisdom of God but we should trust Him. One of the greatest gift that we can give anyone is the gift of trust. Same way that God trusted us, the same way that God has given us more than we deserve, we should trust other people as well. May God grant us His abundant grace to do just that. Amen.